Therapy is a process of change and growth, but sometimes it can feel like nothing is happening or even getting worse. This can be frustrating and discouraging for both the client and the therapist. What can you do when therapy stalls?
Here are some possible steps to take when you notice that your progress in therapy has slowed down or stopped:
“Psychotherapy … [is] a profession whose mainspring is love. Nearly everyone who visits a therapist has a love disorder, and each has a story to tell—of love lost or denied, love twisted or betrayed, love perverted or shackled to violence.”
– Diane Ackerman
Review your goals and expectations.
Sometimes therapy stalls because the goals are unclear, unrealistic, or have been achieved already. It can help to revisit your initial reasons for seeking therapy and evaluate how far you have come and what you still want to work on. You can also discuss with your therapist if your expectations are reasonable and achievable, and adjust them if needed.
Give feedback to your therapist.
Sometimes therapy stalls because the therapist is not meeting your needs, using a style or approach that does not suit you, or missing something important. It can help to be honest and direct with your therapist about how you feel, what you like and dislike, and what you need more or less of. A good therapist will welcome your feedback and use it to improve the quality of the therapy.
Try something different.
Sometimes therapy stalls because the methods or strategies that worked before are no longer effective or relevant. It can help to explore new ways of addressing your issues, such as trying a different technique, changing the frequency or duration of the sessions, or adding other forms of support, such as medication, self-help books, or group therapy.
Take a break or end therapy
Sometimes therapy stalls because you have reached a plateau or a natural end point. It can help to take some time off from therapy to consolidate your learning, practice your skills, and see how you cope on your own. You can also decide to end therapy if you feel that you have achieved your goals and are ready to move on. Ending therapy does not mean that you have failed or that you cannot return if you need to.
If you are interested in learning more about effective treatment for depression or anxiety, you can contact us at (718) 218-3782 or email info@mytalkplace.com to schedule a consultation. We are a team of experienced therapists who offer therapy in a safe and supportive environment. We look forward to hearing from you.
